Book Summary — Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies [Tara Schuster]

Fynn Comerford
4 min readMay 10, 2023

This is a brief book summary of “Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies” by Tara Schuster. The book discusses various ideas related to personal development and happiness. The author provides insights and advice on topics such as journaling, exercise, self-talk, self-reflection, and the importance of relationships. I’ve summarized some key takeaways/action items alluded to in the book — most are quite evident, but it can’t hurt to freshen that up.

  1. Take whatever weird little opportunity you have and maximize the fuck out of it. Don’t dismiss any opportunity that comes your way, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. Instead, try to make the most of it by putting in your best effort and seeing where it takes you.
  2. There are no big break-[throughs] — just a series of tiny little breaks. Success is not the result of one big breakthrough moment, but rather a series of small, consistent actions that lead to progress over time. Keep working hard and putting in effort, and you will eventually see results.
  3. Journal. A way to get in touch with your core feelings is by forcing you, in writing, to become aware and engaged with the innermost self.
    Journaling is a powerful tool for self-reflection and introspection. By writing down your thoughts and feelings, you can gain a better understanding of your innermost self and the issues that may be holding you back.
  4. Do sports. Exercise is important for both physical and mental health. Incorporating regular physical activity into your routine can help boost your mood, reduce stress levels, and improve overall well-being.
  5. Talk to yourself as if you’d talk to someone else. You would never be so harsh with someone else as you are with yourself. It’s common to be overly critical of oneself, but this negative self-talk can be damaging and counterproductive. Instead, try talking to yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would offer a friend or loved one.
  6. Map yourself out. Self-reflection and self-awareness are important for personal growth and development. Try asking yourself thought-provoking questions, taking personality quizzes, and seeking advice from others to gain a better understanding of yourself.
  7. Busy does not mean important. Busy just means you are preoccupied.
    It’s easy to equate being busy with being productive or important, but this is not always the case. Sometimes, being too busy…



Fynn Comerford

CoS at Lorentz Bio | Frequency Bio Fellow | Neuroscience at The University of Edinburgh | Founder of edventure | iGEM 2020 | Videographer